As Facebook continues to rock the digital personality and social networking landscape I’m starting to build up my Facebook friends list and planning to develop some travel based communities using Facebook at the social networking platform.
However I’m somewhat frustrated with what appear to be dramatically different definitions of the word “friend”. Facebook emails to “add friends” make it seem like you should have a real “relationship” with the person before you add them even though this approach seems to be breaking down quickly as Facebook use, abuse, and social networking explodes.
Robert Scoble to the rescue with a great definition of “friend” over at his blog – here was our exchange over there:
- Robert what’s the appropriate way to define “friend”. I have been confused about adding people to facebook thinking Facebook seems to want me to really “know them” to add them though I already have some folks on there I have not met. I’d say the more the merrier, but that will get out of hand quickly.
What is your rule for adding friends?
Comment by JoeDuck — July 25, 2007 @ 10:22 am - Joe: in social networks a “friend” is someone you want in your network. No more, no less.
If you try to limit it to “real friends” you’ll be missing a lot of the power of these things.
I wish they’d stop calling these things “friends,” by the way. Twitter has done just that. People in Twitter are “followers” for people who watch you and “following” for people you are watching. Much better name for these things.
Thanks Robert – excellent!
I think Robert’s definition has several advantages, most notably it encourages people to have *more* people who they call friend. I see this as practical, fun, and a small step towards the elusive goal of more global friendship.
Hey – did you just read this? We’re friends so feel free to send me an add request to Facebook. Do you blog travel or your local region? PLEASE help build a network of regional blogging travel enthusiasts to rule the travel world!